Does it seem like you’re going round in circles doing the same things over and over again, repeating patterns of behaviour and making the same mistakes, especially when they don’t end well or you’re not happy.
It is Einstein who is quoted as saying:
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”
But we all do it unconsciously
Your brain loves habit, to the primitive part of the brain which we share with animals, habit is good it feels safe, it’s the unknown that is scary, so when you lapse or default to the primitive brain it will resort to anything it knows well. Interestingly, this primitive brain is also known as the child brain which is why it makes sense to train (or teach) animals and children with habits and they will just accept and follow a routine. Good for children and animals and explains why adults sometimes behave like big children, but when adults are operating from this part of the brain life starts going around in circles instead of moving forwards.
On a daily scale it could be the ‘daily grind’ that has become habitual:
Go to work
Sit on the couch in front of the TV
… Day in day out.
But on a larger life scale, this habit tendency can stop us breaking free of what is confining our life, keeping us trapped or resorting to previous patterns of behaviour whether they are good for us or not.
I personally experienced this in 2008 when my life hit a financially stressful patch. I was running my own company when the ‘credit crunch’ happened businesses took a sharp downwards turn. As my anxiety levels (and stress levels) rose, my primitive brain took more and more control and the only way out I could see was to go back in to the IT industry. I had escaped this corporate world in 2002 after a bout of stress and depression forced me out, but I knew I could earn decent money, so I chose to go back into something that wasn’t aligned with my personal values for the sake of earning more money. It was a mistake and I only lasted two years before the consequential patterns of behaviour reappeared, the negative thinking, the depressive thoughts and the stress and it didn’t fix the financial problems, just delayed them for a bit.
Now I understand this as my primitive brain taking over and sending me back to a behavioural pattern that I was following last time I felt the same. The primitive brain is about survival, if I survived last time I did that, then clearly it’s a good strategy for the same situation. It doesn’t care about happiness, quality of life, rational behaviour or even if it is potentially damaging to physical, emotional or mental heath, all it care about is survival in the moment. A great strategy for when you bump into Polar Bears, but not a great strategy for handling life.
I love teenagers and I used to be a foster carer for 16 – 18 year olds who couldn’t live at home or with their natural parents for some reason. I find them a wonderful source of inspiration and explanation in life and for material to write about!! If you have teenagers, does this morning routine sound familiar:-
“James, it’s 7 O’clock, time to get up” If you’re lucky you might get a grunt of acknowledgement.
“James, it’s 7.15, you need to get up”
“James, it’s 7.30, you’re going to be late”
An irritable “I’m getting up” is mumbled
“James, it’s 7.45, GET UP”
“James, it’s almost 8, you’re going to miss the bus”
Eventually a dark shadow passes down the stairs and out through the door without a word.
The next day…
“James, it’s 7 O’clock…..”
Did you really think he would jump out of bed, come downstairs washed and dressed in plenty of time to have a good healthy breakfast and head off to school/college with a smile and a cheery wave, this time? You’re doing the same thing, do you really expect a different result?
Ok, so teenagers are an easy target for an example, but we can all think of examples in our own lives. Perhaps we’re working late every night, we feel stuck in a rut, our job isn’t going so well at the moment, or the biggest cry of the stressed “I haven’t had/I don’t have time” Maybe we get home and dive into a glass of wine, we keep getting into the same arguments with our nearest and dearest or our diet isn’t healthy, we have no energy, we can’t sleep or we can’t get up in the morning. Perhaps more serious problems are developing, OCD, IBS, Anger issues, over eating, under eating, anxiety, panic attacks or depression….
These are all primitive brain habitual responses – Something needs to change and you’re in charge of changing it.
So, you examine the problems, finding things or other people to blame, it will be better when …..(you can fill in the blanks)
But you carry on thinking or behaving in the same way, repeating patterns of behaviour day in day out – doing the same thing over and over again, just wishing it was different or grumbling about it to ourselves and/or others, what if-ing and worrying
It’s only when you stop focussing on the problem, what you can’t change and why, then you might just start to see things from a different perspective.
How do you stop thinking about the problems?
You start looking after yourself.
- Start by changing the small things, change your routine after work or your daily routine, pop in and see someone for a coffee, arrange a social event for yourself.
- Look after yourself physically, take long walks, start doing some exercise
- Break the pattern in the moment but taking a long weekend off and going somewhere or taking a holiday
- Change what you eat
- Definitely change what you do in the evening, change the TV watching habit
- Spend more quality time with people, focus on them and talk, get out of your own head.
- Start visualising how you would like things to be instead of how you don’t want them to be.
Change is often painful at first, it’s messy in the middle, but it is always rewarding in the end.
Lower Anxiety Lift Depression
by Emma Triplett
If you are suffering from anxiety and depression, now is the time to take action and get your life back on track!
Lower Anxiety Lift Depression will explain the reason for anxiety and depression so you understand what you can do to deal with the issues that are restricting your life, realise you can take control and recover quickly.
The first step is to understand why anxiety or depression develops. Many people feel the reason for their issues is down to a specific problem or event that has deeply moved them; for example, the break-up of a relationship, financial problems, or illness. But, these are things that are worrying them, they are not the reason for anxiety or depression.
The first step to recovering is learning the truth about the real cause of anxiety or depression. Lower Anxiety Lift Depression includes seven professional video tutorials, one each day, to watch at your own pace. No pressure, no deadlines, no targets, and no confusing science; just Emma Triplett, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Psychologist and Life Coach, explaining why this is happening. Emma exercises empathy and shows great insight in explaining how to deal with anxiety and depression, how to banish it for good, and how to achieve peace of mind and happiness.
With Lower Anxiety Lift Depression, you can be happy, calm, motivated, stress-free and in control.
The Good News After the Bad
Depression and anxiety stem from chemical reactions in the brain. The bad news is that they cannot be seen and they are not always easy to understand. But the good news is that they can be controlled by you (no prescription medication necessary).
Take steps to recognise what has gone wrong and identify what needs to change and it is possible to learn what needs to be done to take control.
This video series is perfect for anyone who is ready to take responsibility for themselves and their life and is prepared to open their mind to learning new ways of dealing with things. Now is the time to enrol on the course Lower Anxiety Lift Depression.
Understanding Anxiety and Depression
When someone is in the grip of anxiety or depression, their brain gets stuck in a mode that is meant for dealing with crisis, emergency and danger. That’s why they might feel like they are going round and round in circles, doing the same thing over and again not able to break free of the thought patterns or are too scared to try anything different in case it doesn't work or something even worse happens. Worrying about the worst case scenario or feeling nothing will every work are typical thought patterns for anxiety and depression, the difference between the two is that people with anxiety tend to worry and what-if about the future and people with depression negatively introspect about themselves, their life and the past. Many people do both and many develop other symptoms of anxiety and depression such as anger, suffer from sleep disorders, panic attacks, migraines, IBS, eating disorders, addictions, OCD, and so on.
Banish the Irrational Voices for Good
It helps to look at the situation as having two voices inside our head. The logical, rational, intellectual part of our mind battles against the irrational, emotional, primitive part. This is the part that imagines the worst possible scenario to prepare us for what could go wrong. Someone suffering from depression or anxiety is likely to be letting the irrational, emotional, primitive part of their mind win the argument.
But it can be quietened. It is possible to banish it for good and put the logical, rational, intellectual part back in control.
Lower Anxiety, Lift Depression. A seven-day video course that will help get the real you back.
What to Expect From Lower Anxiety Lift Depression
- A video delivered to your inbox every day for seven days
- A special bonus video module on day eight
- A free self-hypnosis MP3 track
- A recommended reading list to guide you if you want more information
- One-to-one email support from Emma Triplett, DPH, HPD, MNCH(Reg), AfSFH, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Psychologist & Life Coach
- A money back guarantee if you are not happy about what you receive for any reason.
- Full course lesson plan that you can do at your own speed or refer back to as many times as you like.
With this course you will learn
- why we develop anxiety and/or depression
- how the brain works, explained in an unscientific way everyone will understand
- how we influence the world around us, good and bad, just by our thoughts
- how your hormones and neurotransmitters are affected and how you can directly influence that to become happy, calm, motivated, stress free and in control.
- strategies of how to deal with toxic people around you more effectively.
- what makes you tick and where it all goes right or wrong for you.
- why something needs to change in your life
- what needs to change
- your fundamental needs as a human being and why, when this goes wrong, anxiety and/or depression can develop.
Who should take this course
- Lower Anxiety Lift Depression is for people who are suffering from anxiety and/or depression and experiencing symptoms such as anger, insomnia & sleep disorders, panic attacks, OCD, IBS, eating disorders, addictions or migraine and headaches,
- People who want to understand why they have anxiety and depression (it probably not what you think)
- Those who want to learn what they can do to take control and be 'normal' again.
I bought the course for help in dealing with my depression and anxiety, I hoped that doing the course would help to ease my symptoms. The course exceeded my expectations, I was given pills for my anxiety and have found that I have not needed to take them.*Rachel,
First class course which is excellent value for money. Emma went above and beyond to ensure it ran smoothly and provide further information to help answer any questions. I highly recommend the books and courses.*Lucy,
How does it work?
Starting today you will receive a video lesson a day for seven days, plus a bonus module that you can keep and refer to whenever you need. Each lesson is delivered at the same time each day and you will receive the first lesson instantly in your inbox, even if it's 2am. You will also receive a full lesson plan so if you miss a lesson, need to refer back or even if you are keen and want to work ahead you can access any of the lessons whenever is convenient for you.
With lesson 1 you will also receive a free hypnotherapy MP3 download to use along side this course with full instructions of how to use it so you can maximise its benefits. You will also receive a 'Wednesday's Thought' every week which is midweek inspiration for you to ponder and on Saturdays I send you the weekly article which has been inspired by readers or guest writers on topics that help you go through life more easily.
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7 day video course for anxiety and depression is one of a new range of courses with the option of selecting how much you want to pay. No matter how much you pay, you'll be getting the same course as everybody else. We simply trust that people are honest and will support the author of the course with whatever they can afford. And if you are not 100% satisfied, we will refund your money.