Lesson 1 – What motivates some people to take advantage of others?
Everyone is NOT the same – thank goodness, don’t you think?
It’s an obvious statement, of course everyone is different, so why do we get upset with other people and think:
But why can’t everyone be like me?
Everyone is different and everyone thinks that everyone else should be like them (well almost everyone) and everyone is right, hmmm!
The truth is, we only know what we know, so we naturally view the world from our own perspective.
The first step in changing how people treat you is accepting that everyone is different.
I know that you know that, but the reality of people being different means
Realising that using your imagination in an attempt to understand other people isn’t going to help because they aren’t you and all it will do is cause you upset and anxiety.
Judging how other people behave from your own perspective is giving them an unfair trial; you don’t know their motivation or mitigating circumstances.
Everybody has a unique view of the world created by his or her upbringing and influenced by culture, social rules, experiences and significant people in their life.
So the answer to the question ‘What motivates some people to take advantage of others” is we have no idea because we are not them but perhaps more significantly, although you may FEEL taken advantage of, it is not necessarily meant in that way.
But even if it is meant and they are deliberately taking advantage or your good nature – you have the power to change it.
As you have bought this course, I feel qualified to make one judgement about you and that is that YOU are a lovely person, one of life’s natural carer’s who gets upset at the thought of upsetting other people and a personality type called a ‘Settler’.
Continuing with the theme that everyone is different, tomorrow we’re going to take a look at the three major personality types and where this fits in you and who are the people in your life most likely to be taking advantage and why they probably don’t realise they’re doing it.
Lesson 1 ends today with a self hypnosis MP3 to download and play. Boundaries will help you to start getting the confidence to say ‘no’ and realign your beliefs about boundaries.
Click the links below to access the MP3s, play the instructions first and then start playing ‘Boundaries’ every night.