Does your quick temper, irritability or inability to control your anger take you by surprise sometimes and you wonder why you reacted in that way?
Does your anger sometimes seem irrational and when you have calmed down, you feel embarrassed or regretful of why you lost your temper in the first place?
Do you sometimes fly into such a rage that you feel like you’re not in control of your words or actions?
Anger comes from our original primitive, emotional brain which is responsible for our self preservation and anger is a primitive way of increasing our strength. When our anxiety levels rise or we are under a lot of stress, which can happen gradually over time, our primitive brain will think that we are in crisis and step in to help and one of the tools it uses is anger.
The anger scale can range from being ‘snappy’ or irritable to, in some severe cases, physical violence and the anger can just as easily be turned on ourselves as it can to our nearest and dearest or to the innocent call centre operator at the other end of the telephone. Once our anger rises, we often become irrational, acting emotionally with self centered negative thought patterns.
Part of the anger management solution at Old Town Hypnotherapy is to help you to understand why you react in this seemingly uncontrollable way and provides you with effective methods of dealing with situations calmly. It is not a case of having to ‘control’ your anger, in a very short period of time it simply wont happen.
For initial consultations for anger management, alcohol and addictions we request a refundable deposit against missing the appointment. Sadly anger management, alcohol and addiction clients are by far the highest number of culprits for 'no shows' for appointments and, apart from the cost to the hypnotherapist, it is frustrating that the appointment could have been offered to someone in need. If you turn up for the initial consultation you have booked it is free and you will be refunded the £30 deposit, however, if you fail to show up and do not give us 48 hours notice for the cancellation we keep the deposit to cover rooms fees and admin charges. Please fill in the contact form below to arrange a free initial consultation, when we have found a suitable date for you we will then send you a paypal request for the deposit prior to the appointment which will be refunded within 24 hours of attending.
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